Six Ways to Get over a Breakup
Whether it's a sudden shock or a long time coming, a breakup is hard to get over. You can feel overwhelmed, insecure, and even a bit betrayed. After calling it quits with someone you were close to, no matter how long the relationship was, you're bound to have a few open wounds; that's only natural. However, after you've spent some time crying and listening to sappy love songs while going over the gruesome details with your girlfriends, it's time to let those wounds heal. Here are six ways to get over a breakup and get on with your life:
1. Go out with friends. A great way to let your wounds close is to have some good old-fashioned fun. Whether you hit a pub with your gal pals or simply go out for ice cream in the afternoon, spending time with other people will help get your mind off what's going on with you. Plus, having a few laughs is good for you! Once your buddies get you to giggle, you'll find that it feels good. While it can be satisfying to mope and be miserable after a break-up, going out with friends will help you realize that being happy is nice, too.
2. Treat yourself. Splurging on something you love is a great way to remind yourself that you're special. And if he didn't treat like a princess, why shouldn't you treat yourself like one? If you love manicures, go to the salon. If shoes are your thing, find a pair you love and wear them for a week straight. Whether it's a new book or just a sundae at Baskin Robbins, let yourself be spoiled for a day.
3. Surround yourself with positivity. You know it's true. If you sit around listening to the Smiths all day and watching "A Walk to Remember," you're probably going to be pretty bummed. Fortunately, the opposite is true! If you fill your world with happy things, they'll start to rub off on you. So fill your iPod with songs about moving on and moving up ("Don't Come Crying to Me" by Cher is one the best breakup songs ever!) and feel the positive vibes.
4. Hit the dating pool. It may feel too soon. You may be nervous. But the only way to get over your old sweetie is realize that are more options out there--cute options. And remember, you don't need to find Mr. Perfect. Simply spending time with someone new and interesting can help you get over the feeling that you've lost the only one for you and get you wondering about who's next.
5. Throw yourself into a hobby. First and foremost, a hobby will get your mind off of your single status--that's half the battle. The other half is that it will get you excited about something. You need to fill the gap left by the breakup, both in your thoughts and in your schedule, and a hobby can do this. In short, let a hobby be a healthy way to bridge the gap until you feel like yourself again. And if you don't have a hobby, find something new to learn, whether it's jewelry making or Italian cooking.
6. Vent. Do you need to blow off some steam about the situation or simply tap into a like-minded community? Gabbing with other gals in the same situation can keep you from feeling like you're the only one who's gone through this. You may want to check out Ex in the City--this site has great forums as well as a Reader Submission area where you can submit tales of your own breakup woes.
7. Fake it until you make it. Even if you do all of these things, there are no guarantees that you'll magically be back to 100 percent. So what's a girl to do? Try smiling, even if you just want to burst into tears. Science has shown that by smiling--even if we're faking it--sends a message to your brain that actually promotes the production of endorphins, which naturally lift your mood. Eventually, you'll find yourself smiling and meaning it. Until then, keep your head up and keep Cher on repeat.
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